THE IMPORTANCE OF LETTING GO OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO FRUSTRATE US.
Posted by Trevor on 18 April 2013 | 6 Comments
Think of one person – just one – who frustrates you in the office or the home. Think of how many hours you spend replaying their attitude and behavior in your imagination, and how many hours of restless sleep you allowed that to cause. Then contemplate this story.
One day two monks were returning to their monastery silently, while all the time watching their thoughts, contemplating each step and witnessing everything in the moment. A great peace enveloped them.
A small river flowed close to their monastery. Coming to the river they saw a beautiful young lady crying because it was her wedding day, and she could not cross the river without ruining her bridal gown.
The first monk said to her that he was sorry, but as a member of a strict teaching he could not touch a woman and therefore could not help. The other monk took pity on the young woman and without thinking carried her across the river.
Walking back to the monastery the first monk chastised the second, telling him he had broken his religious vows. He continued to berate the second monk all evening.
That night, the first monk was so angry for the second monk’s transgression that he could not sleep. Eventually, he woke the first monk saying “you are now spoiled for you have carried the woman on your shoulders, and it is sin for a monk to touch a woman.”
The second monk replied ‘The sin is yours, for I rescued the woman and then dropped her on the other side of the river. There I left her, but you are still carrying her in your head’.”
That is how it is with that one infuriating individual. Sometimes we perceive hurt or fault whether it was intended or accidental. Because, however, we carry that in our imaginations for so long we become like the first monk. We only have ourselves to blame for our negative feelings, and the person we think caused our feelings loses no sleep over it at all.
It is important to let go, and sometimes the most freeing feeling comes from apologizing to someone you know for a fact is the one in the wrong.