Setting Relationship Intentions
Posted by Trevor on 30 October 2012 | Post a Comment
Until yesterday I had never heard of Dr. Ali Binazir. He showed up on the Three Simple Steps Amazon page and left an excellent, comprehensive review. I Googled him and discovered he is a pretty smart man, and not just because he likes Three Simple Steps. He is Harvard and Cambridge educated, and author of several popular books including one that has been #1 in its category on Amazon for over a year. It is called The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible.
I know nothing about the art of dating. When I was 21 it took me months to pluck up the courage to ask my wife out on a date. Fortunately it went well, (except for the moment I walked into a lamppost) and I have not had to face that stressful experience again. I would not know where to begin.
Recently some female readers of Three Simple Steps have asked me whether it is acceptable to set Intentions (step 3) for relationships. My answer has been that it is absolutely the right thing to do so long as the energy of the Intention is Personal, Positive and Past Tense… or what we call the Three Ps. The Intention must be about something you want for you and not try to manipulate someone else’s energy in your direction. An Intention could read like, “I have a fun and fulfilling relationship with a man I both love and respect. We have traveled the world together enjoying new experiences.”
Unfortunately, my relationship advice ends there. It is an interesting debate about who makes a relationship expert. Is it the person who has been happily married 30 years or someone who has experienced the pain of marriage and divorce several times? I don’t know the answer, but I do know that if I were dating again I’d need all the help and advice I can muster.
I would not recommend an author unless I had read and approved of his or her book, so I downloaded the Tao of Dating to my Kindle. If my wife sees it on the home page I’ll have some explaining to do. I am delighted to say it is an excellent read, a real page-turner and I learned a lot about how the male and female minds work so differently. Given its popularity and the rave reviews online I feel confident recommending it, and I think it valuable for men and women alike.
I have never met or spoken to Dr Ali Binazir and he has no idea I am recommended his book, but like I say, he gave Three Simple Steps five stars so he must be smart, right?