Monday Morning Medicine: The importance of sharing experiences.
Posted by Trevor Blake on 5 January 2014 | 9 Comments
Happy Monday morning everyone
This podcast is about the importance of sharing… of reaching out to each other. Experience some say, tongue in cheek, is that thing happening to you that you wish was happening to someone else. Certainly, it is sometimes easier to learn from other’s experiences than to experience the same thing ourselves.
When I was first working out how to get out of my version of quicksand, the people I learned from were the self made men and women from history. Their lifetimes of ups and down are what I eventually condensed into the Three Simple Steps recipe.
In business, I didn’t need to work my way through every department of a company like Andrew Carnegie to understand the power of vertical integration. I simply piggybacked onto his experience and used it to build a business model that others sometimes though brilliant. I never let on that it was over 100 years old. I didn’t need to spend years of trial and error with different problem/solution formulae like Henry Ford. I simply read his story and all the books he himself wrote when he was successful about the importance of reacting positively to one’s own doubting voice. That has been a life-changer for me.
In the 1980s after I got married and faced eviction from my home for mortgage arrears, there was no internet for me with all the blogs and discussion forums that permit people to share experiences to help and support one another… at light-speed. If there were I would have taken full advantage of it. Why struggle with trial and error oneself when we can learn from others experiences?
As it was, I relied a lot on biographies. I also read books on memory techniques such as mnemonics by Tony Buzan. It obviously worked because I still remember the name of the book and the author and I have not seen it since 1984… and meditation practices particularly as taught by Deepak Chopra who helped demystify it all for me.
I played Wayne Dyer cassette tapes until they broke in the car stereo and I listened to music that I found uplifting. It might be a little embarrassing to admit that Madonnas greatest hits for some reason raised my spirits and energy. I never understood why although I was always impressed by the fact that someone who (in my opinion) could not sing very well, was an average dancer, and was not what at the time people would call photogenically beautiful could thrust her way into stardom without a helping hand. She seemed fearless to me and that seemed to pay off for her and I learned something from it… so whenever I hear her 1980s music today it still gives me a lift and reminds me to live fearlessly. I have since learned that she used a neurogenic technique called superfluidity before every performance and I have adopted that in business.
The point is why struggle through ups and downs when so many people are open and willing to help by sharing their experiences. The Internet makes it just so easy. Every religion in the world has a phrase that says something like “You can achieve all that I have achieved and so much more.” That is because by learning from other experiences we speed up our own evolution. In the front of our brains is a group of neurons called the mirror neurons and their whole purpose is to observe and mimic. We can watch someone try a million ways to make fire, and then when they finally crack it by rubbing two pieces of granite together, we simply rub two pieces of granite and enjoy the same experience without all the painful experience of the effort.
That is why I wrote TSS. You don’t need to take twenty years to get whatever you want. You can do it sooner because I gave you the recipe. That is also why I have this blog and forum. I am very grateful for all of you who leave comments and advice for others. The blog is not for me, nor is the forum. I don’t need it. It is for you. If you ask a question and I think I have the answer I will answer. But more importantly it is for sharing experiences.
Please don’t be shy in speaking up. The more you help each other the more you gain help yourselves. Energy flows and the more you let flow out, the more flows in. It is a law of life. When energy stops flowing it stagnates and everything in life is a form of energy. That is a proven scientific fact.
You never know who will be browsing and something that you may think of minor importance to share could have a major impact on someone else.
We also now have a brilliant website (and idea) put together by a TSS reader called Allison Babb Phillips. Other than a couple of online video chats I don’t know Allison, but I recognize a fellow wizard when I see one. Allison has put together a brilliant forum for TSS readers and fellow wizards to share their stories and experiences. I encourage you all to follow the link in this blog article and podcast and both sign up so that you get instant access whenever someone leaves a story or experience… you don’t know how important that might be to you just at that time… and also to share your own experiences for the benefit of others. You don’t know how important it might be for someone else and there are TSS readers all over the world, of all ages, all cultures.
TSS is a great recipe but that is all it is. I get nothing from sharing it other than the thrill of learning about how people’s lives have changed and $1 for every book sold to cancer R&D. No recipe is instantly successful. It takes practice and cookery skills and that is what the Allison’s website is for. Learn from each other’s experiences so you can encourage others and also avoid making the same screw ups yourself. What you do with the recipe and what you create with it is unlimited.
Wizards are uncommon… unfortunately… in a lets face it dumbed down world. Most people don’t have the energy to change, but you do or else you would never have signed up for these bulletins. So please as wizards or wizards in the making help each other and learn from each other and I can think of no better forum than Allison’s website.
Energy begets energy begets energy begets energy…