Do You Want to be a Thoroughbred or a Mule? Nothing wrong with either, but you have to choose.
Posted by Trevor on 21 May 2013 | 14 Comments
A few recent emails have convinced me that a key message from Three Simple Steps might be getting overlooked. The message comes right at the beginning of the book, and that may be why it does not come over as strongly as I wished.
Rare is the person who gets rich working for someone else. Also as rare is the artist loved immediately by the critics, or the inventor applauded by peer review panels. Most rare of all is a person who is self-actualizing while still taking directions from someone else. It just is not possible to be all you can be without being in charge of your own mind, and thereafter your own journey. That means being an individual. Three Simple Steps is about being any of those things; rich, adventurous, famous, successful, traveler, fulfilled, inspirational, self-actualizing, leader, winner, achiever, triumphant, writer, actress, singer, inventor, entrepreneur. It is not about slightly improving your job. There are other books and other methods for that, and if you email me I can recommend some.
So, when I receive emails in which someone courageously shares that their Intention is to get a job, or perhaps a slightly better job, or a larger home in a better location, or a friend to share some time with, I can’t help but feel the power of the Three Simple Steps has not come through very well. Certainly, the person writing has yet to rediscover his or her passion. It is okay to want all of those things, but you certainly don’t need the power of Three Simple Steps to get them.
Although simple, the steps are by no means easy because they require discipline, selfishness, and a little craziness (as judged by others). They have to become a lifestyle habit. So, if all you desire in life is a little improvement in a situation, then using the Three Simple Steps is a bit like taking a hammer to crack a peanut when all you wanted was a snack.
The Three Simple Steps is a map for anyone who wants to be all they can be. I wrote it specifically for that purpose. I did not write it so that readers could slightly improve their condition. It does not work well for the latter. A few years ago I drove what people call a super-car. It was designed for open roads and tight corners, and all but flying across the terrain. It was a magical ride at (cough) miles an hour. Then I moved back to the Seattle area where they have some of the slowest drivers on earth. My supercar was a thoroughbred and now it had to behave like a working mule. It was not happy chugging along at 30 miles an hour behind someone whose foot was attached to the brake pedal, and in that setting it returned anything but a magical experience. I had to sell it for something more suitable to my needs.
So it is with Three Simple Steps. It is about becoming a thoroughbred, a super-car, the best you can be in whatever endeavor you choose.
To successfully begin that magical process requires two things.
The first is that you know what you want. That is so important I’ll repeat it. You must know how you want your life to turn out. Most people don’t know the answer to the question… If all impediments are removed and you can have, be, and do anything you want right now with the click of your fingers, what would it be… There is an exercise in Three Simple Steps to help you rediscover that, and it is essential to do the exercise periodically if this map is to be of use for your journey. Think of it this way:
Imagine a God-figure sitting at Her desk floating in the universe. Phone lights flash maniacally. Working at the speed of light God is grabbing one receiver after another. You call Her up and She answers immediately because call centers were, of course, created in hell:
God/life: How can I help?
You: Er, Hello God I am not very happy right now.
God: What’s up?
You: I want a better life than the one I have.
God: Can you be more specific? What exactly do you want?
You: Well I have not really given it much thought. I just don’t want this.
God: Look I am a very busy God. I have to take 7 billion calls many times a day, and that is just from your planet. I can give you anything you want but you have to tell me what it is… be specific.
You: Can you not just make things better?
God: Call me back when you work out what you want.
Give your God a helping hand. Work out what it is you want. She is God for God’s sake, and She can give you anything. That becomes your private Intention. The rest becomes details you leave to your God after you place your call to Her by doing the exercise EXACTLY as explained in Three Simple Steps. When you sit quietly in your special place to do that exercise, what you don’t see… because it exists outside your visual dimension… is that you are surrounded by a red phone box with a direct line.
Let’s say you are a clerk in an accounting office. You do the “what if?” exercise and realize that your dream is to become the next president of the US. Wait a minute, 19 presidents were previously lawyers, 3 schoolteachers, one a haberdasher, one a B-movie actor… maybe that is not such a stretch. Let’s say instead that you do the what if exercise and decide you want to be a chart-topping singer. From that point on all your focus is on being on stage and in a recording studio. What job you have now and what job life throws you next become irrelevant, unimportant… stepping stones… and you no longer give it much thought. You stop being against the job you have and you stop trying to get a better one, because your “what if “ dream is so far removed from it. When you aim for the moon you don’t care about bumps in the road.
The second thing is acceptance that the journey from where you are to where you can get is often a lonely one. From the emails I receive that is not something everyone wants to hear. That does not mean being alone. It means pursuing whatever it is that you want for you without regard to anyone around you. The best gift you can give anyone else is to be all you were meant to be.
If you are lucky then you will find that many of the people you love now also become jigsaw pieces in your time-puzzle. You have to be prepared, however, for changes to the people in your current environment. You are not packing a charter flight with all your favorite people and heading to an island resort for fun. It is more like a scene from a Harry Potter movie in which you are standing in the middle stair on a staircase when all the staircases are moving around between floors and departments. When the stairs settle down many of the people around you will have changed and you could be catapulted to a place you did not anticipate.
Once you accept these two things, a clear understanding of what you want, and acceptance that from now on this new adventure of yours is entirely yours, then the Three Simple Steps becomes the map to help, but only then.
I hope this helps clarify things for you. Have a great week. Make a positive difference in someone’s life, have fun doing it, and share in the rewards that come naturally as a result.