Change Takes Time
Posted by Trevor on 19 June 2012 | Post a Comment
When people read “Three Simple Steps” and begin working through the process, they can sometimes feel a little discouraged in the immediate aftermath. There is usually a sense of excitement at finally having a map out of the quicksand of life and the tools to take control of their lives. We live in an era when immediate satisfaction is desired. It can happen. I have seen people change their lives dramatically in the first few days. No two people are alike, however. No two people start change from the same point, so for some it can take weeks or even months until new success habits are formed.
I grew up fascinated by the stories of other people, particularly those who enjoyed exotic lives or those who had achieved great success from challenging situations. I probably read 50 biographies by the time I was 20, and I continue to read biographies to this day. Every one of them reinforces each of the Three Simple Steps because self-made men and women all portray them in their journeys. My advice to you is never read just one book, thinking that one book is the answer to your prayers, because then it’s you and that book against the world. If you really want to change your life, read a book a week about self-help, meditation and neuroplasticity. Eventually, you’ll build a platform in your mind and feel confident that you’re on a good path forward, and you will not feel discouraged if things don’t improve overnight.
If you don’t believe me, maybe you’ll believe this inspiring woman:
I knew there was a way out; I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being.
Oprah Winfrey, who having been raped, and abused, arrived on her father’s doorsteps as a pregnant fourteen year-old delinquent. Under his care she was required to read and write a report on one inspirational library book a week.
Read biographies of successful people, and you’ll start to see patterns of behavior. If you’re stuck in quicksand, how do you know the same things that worked for them won’t work for you? At least give it a go. In the “Three Simple Steps,” I use the picture of a winding staircase, to illustrate the process of change. Oftentimes things don’t work out exactly as you think they will. When you walk up a winding staircase, you do so blindly, with complete confidence and faith that it’s going to lead you where you want to go. We inherently know the top stair is attached to the upper floor, and all we have to do is walk up, but most of the time you cannot see the summit, and you appear to be heading in an alternative direct to the landing.
Another way to avoid frustration is to set your Intentions without timelines. When I first started setting goals instead of Intentions, I would put timelines to my goals and become really frustrated when the dates passed. Now I set Intentions and let life fill in the details. I prefer to trust the laws of physics and the laws of nature to work things out for me. It is the same as sowing a seed. The seed doesn’t worry about when it’s going to become a flower, so with Intentions I don’t worry about when something will show up. I find about half of my desires turn up sooner than I would have guessed and half take longer. So long as they turn up, why worry?
If you’re stuck in your life, worrying about debt and talking negatively, and then you set a goal to have a million dollars by tomorrow, what’s going to happen when somebody doesn’t show up at the door the next day with a check? You have no right to get frustrated, because you’re not ready for it yet. You have to put yourself in a position to be ready. You have to remove timelines when setting intentions. Say what you want, and let nature make it happen for you.
Write out your intentions every day and look at them. I have probably glanced at mine three times while thinking over this topic. Oh! And read about some of these fantastic people, like Madame Walker, Andrew Carnegie and Henry Ford, who’ve achieved great things. These are fascinating lives to read and learn from. All of your efforts have some effect and speed your ascent up the winding staircase.